Thursday, July 29, 2010
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
But a couple weeks ago, I got the best wedding job appointment ever. One of my boys, the Animal House Boys, from college is getting married in September to a fantastic girl. (For those of you who know the boys....he did not live in the house, but he might as well have, so he's included in the group definition).
Talk about making my day! So, Animal House boy and his soon to be Mrs., thank you for the title....I can't wait for the big day! Flowers. I know how Miranda Lambert feels. Yes, that's right. I've killed more flowers. (Remember this is the second death....) The after picture would be too depressing, so I'll spare you. I blame this death on being out of town for the weekend of the 4th to sort sheep and for the Centennial Celebration. So, in light of this growing season being a disaster, I have given up on flowers. Instead, I'll go to Trader Joes and buy the already grown ones and put them in a vase. That, I can handle!
Happiness Project. This month's Happiness Project focus was on being happier at work. The last couple months have been insanity at the office, so it's taken longer than I hoped. I've been able to implement a few of my goals, but several others are still in the works. So...I'm giving myself an extra month on this one. Stay tuned for my report at the end of August!
The Lost Rant Letters. I hear a few people wrote rant letters after reading that blog. Well, I found two of the long lost rant letters that me, College Roomie, and the Oklahoma Girls circulated. I had to share some of the funnier ones.
"I honestly have no idea why I ever even liked you...actually I know why. That year that I met you, I had become very close with my friend Jose Cuervo and he had obviously convinced me that I should go out with you. Never again will I ever listen to Mr. Cuervo."
"You were skinnier than me, which is a long-term deal breaker."
"I blame it on on halloween parties, and the fact you were once dressed as a penguin...it was kind of cute. Not anymore...I will never trust a penguin."
"You're getting fat and feel like you have to put other people down to make yourself feel better."
"You didn't want anything to do with me after I went to the George Strait concert. Your loss....you should know, no one and I mean no one comes between me and the King...no one!!"
Letters to (Future) Me. My girls and I all did a letter to me (except for one of the Okahoma Girls who needed to do a man rant letter instead...understandable!.....but she'll do one soon). Anyway, after we wrote those, we decided that we wanted to write letters to ourselves--to be read in the future! So, the plan is to each write a letter in 2010 that will be opened in 2020. We're also each getting a disposable camera and taking pictures that we will not develop until 2020. Let's hope that they still develop film by then.... And last, but not least, the quote of the month.
College Roomie had a really good quote, but we both forgot what it was. Sorry about that. But never fear, the same Oklahoma Girl struck gold again!
"Wanted: tall, dark and handsome good lovin manly man that can two step, loves Jesus, his momma and OSU football. Is this too hard to find?.....Apparently!"
(I also have a blog comment of the month--my friend Pig Farmer's Wife left a gem on my blog about why Kirk Herbstreit is killing my love life). It led to all sorts of interesting comments!
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
At first, I thought I read it wrong. We hear all the time, and in fact I frequently blog about the fact that life is short. Her statement is exactly the opposite.
She went on to explain that when she turned 30, she was rushing around all the time and stressing out about getting everything done because life was so short. She accomplished a crazy number of things in a short period of time. She says that what she learned from this is that life is long, and you don't have to do everything all at once. She and I have completely different philosophies about life....she says long, I say short (she says tomato, I say....) And because of that, our approach to being happy is also completely opposite. It makes her life happier to think about how long life is and to slow down. It makes my life happier to realize how short life is and to do what I want to do now while I have the opportunity to do it. My bucket list is a source of happiness for me....but having one would likely just stress her out.
Monday, July 26, 2010
For the last couple weeks, I have been asking the question, "What is the one word that you would use to describe me?" From the answers that I've received, I have learned several things.
First off, the answer to the question can be radically different based on how well a person knows you. For example, College Roomie's word for me was "compassionate." I think that's a very perceptive word that is right on the money. However, people who don't know me well and have only a surface knowledge of my personality would not chose that word. Only someone like College Roomie who knows me really well would know that side of my personality and would be able to come up with that word.
When she shared it with a mutual friend, he looked at her kind of funny. She could tell that he would not have come up with the same word. It's not because I have acted uncompassionate towards him, but it's just that he doesn't know me well enough to have seen that side of my personality. It's important to have people in your life who see the real you, rather than just the you on the surface that the world knows.
What I have realized is that my best friends are the ones who come up with the words that are the most insightful. The words that the best friends came up with are the words I would most like to be seen as. Maybe they see the real me--or maybe I am more the person I want to be around them. Either way, I think I'm lucky to have these friendships in my life!
Second, it's amazing the things that other people don't see, that we worry about. I can bet you most people would think of negative words to describe themselves....think about how many people you know who worry about their looks or their weight or whatever. I bet if I asked you to list 5 words to describe yourself, you'd have at least one negative in there. The negative word that I think of for me is plain. But you know what, no one ever used a negative word when describing another person when I asked this question for the blog.
People don't look at us and notice the 5 extra pounds or the hair that will not stay in place or the way we might periodically snap at someone when we get annoyed. Instead, people generally notice the positive. Instead of spending so much dwelling on the little things that we see, I think we all need to spend time focusing on the positive things that others see. It's so funny how we see someone totally different when we look in the mirror than what people see when they look at us.
Third, I have amazing friends. When I tried to think of words to describe my friends, I was constantly amazed at what wonderful people I have been able to surround myself with. They are smart and funny and kind and protective and caring and loyal. They are beautiful and enthusiastic and real and supportive. It's these people who have made me into the person that I am today.
Finally, just a little aside, the two funniest words I got about me were "Donor, like a cow" (you will be seeing a blog about this soon) from BFF and "ring tailed tooter" (which I understand is a good thing meaning something similar to spunky) from Cousin Junior.
Friday, July 23, 2010
Thursday, July 22, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
When asked, only 2% of women said that they thought they were beautiful.
When I heard the statistic, I first though of that older country song, "She Don't Know She's Beautiful" and had that stuck in my head all day. Annoying!
Another interesting observation that I made while listening to the radio discussion is that guys think just about all girls are beautiful. It's totally true that guys do not think the way girls think about beauty. Don't get me wrong--I think if Megan Fox knocked on any guy's door, he'd be all over it. But I don't think that guys look at every inch of a girl's body and compare it to Megan. A lot of guys on the radio said that they honestly think the opposite of women---instead of only 2% being beautiful, they would say that 98% are beautiful. (Perhaps we should lay off the boy bashing sessions for a minute...just a minute though!)
Anyway, my point is this. We need to work on our self esteem and stop being so hard on ourselves and on other girls. Life is hard enough as it is without that added stress. And, in closing, while this whole issue with my girls, this comment was made.....yes, the Oklahoma Girl strikes again with a gem:
I guess we all just need to be thankful we have boobs, big or small and don't have a nasty penis like boys, we have the luxury of peeing sitting down, instead of peeing standing up, and we, thank goodness are not hairy like guys...they are hairy all over...gross!!
Hard to argue there. Sometimes an Oklahoma Girl quote is worth a thousand words.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
Monday, July 19, 2010
Dear 20 year-old self:
Tell the boy how you feel. And this will apply to more than one boy in the next 6 years. Stop worrying about ruining the friendship.....once you get older and the boys start falling in love with other girls, the friendships start to fade anyway.
Always get the season football and basketball tickets. I know you are broke and it seems like a corner that you can cut. Really, it's not. Don't eat for a week or two if necessary.
On a related note, do NOT call your brother trash talking when OSU gets Texas down by 4 touchdowns in the first half of the home game your senior year. There's a guy named Vince Young who will shut your mouth. Big time.
Pick up a limee. Actually, maybe that's not the best idea. You not discovering them until your last semester may be what gets you (and your liver) through college unscathed.
That roomate who you were lucky enough to find is becoming one of your best friends in the world. Yes, you are nearly complete opposites. Maybe that's why it works. Don't yell when she burns the popcorn. It was an accident. Don't forgive her too fast when she breaks the cannister lid. She feels real guilty and will probably cook you something good if you play it a little...
Enjoy every single Sunday at Sunnybrook Christian Church. You will find a small group that will become like family to you. The faith that you experience and cultivate here will only become increasingly important in the rest of your life.
When you meet the really nice girl at Lights on Stillwater, know that she'll lead you to one of your new best friends. The Lights on Stillwater girl will disappear from both of your lives, but that new best friend isn't going anywhere. Transfer out of the terrible Business Law class you go to the first day of your junior year and go to Professor Urich. Business law with him will open your eyes. You will realize that there are so many places to do and things to see and experiences to have that you can't live your life without trying these things. You will learn that not everyone believes what you believe, and while you might disagree, you can still be civil and respectful.
As great as your friends are now, there are some of your best friends who you haven't even met yet. Keep your eyes open. These girls will change your life!
This one is the most important. By the time you're 25, two of your favorite people in the world will be gone. Even though you think they seem invincible, they aren't. Ask them your questions, get their advice, and enjoy your time with them now. Hug them both every chance you get. Someday, you would be willing to give anything to hear their voice one more time.
Love, Me at 26