"I pay to get my eyebrows waxed twice a month. I pay for makeup. I pay to shave more of my body. I pay for open-toed shoes, closed-toed shoes, boots, sneakers and sandals, in varying shades. I pay for purses. I pay for bras. I pay for pepper spray. I pay for diet advice. I pay for self-help books. I pay for gifts to bring to baby showers and bridal showers and bachelorette parties. MEN PAY FOR DATES." ~ Everyday Goodness
So a couple of weeks ago my friend went on a date with a doctor. He asked her out to a nice restaurant here in town. Things were going really well. And then it happened. The check came. The doctor looked at the ticket, looked at my friend, and then said, "Halfsies?"
Good thing this dude didn't ask me out, or he would have gotten "the look." Here is a sample being used on Cousin Swiss Mister after he said I was dressed trashy.
Now, mind you, I can't seem to find anyone to even take me to dinner, much less do appropriate things while there, so I really probably shouldn't be complaining, but....well.....why else do I have a blog? Maybe I should write a book on advice for boys....I've done this topic once before on the blog. I would also include chapters on not mentioning your baby mamas (yes plural) and actually calling them that in the same conversation where you ask a girl out. And never ordering lettuce wraps when the girl ordered a steak. But I digress...
Anyway, after hearing my friend's story, I stumbled upon a survey on the internet. Apparely 49% of men think that the man should pay for the first date. WHAT!?! This menas that 51%, or the majority, or MOST men do not.
Understand that I'm an independent girl. I'm all for women's rights and equal treatment and what not. I grew up in a family that didn't care if I was a girl---I was expected to help brand cattle and haul hay and feed ewes just like my brother. I have a good job (one that until a few decades ago women weren't allowed to have), I have my own house, and I can may for my own freakin' dinner.
HOWEVER.....the point here is that I want a guy who WANTS to pay for my dinner on the first date. It's a sign of respect. And chivalry. And being a gentleman. And I don't see any reason why those things and women being equal can't coexist.
And don't get me wrong here, I'm not saying a guy should always pay. If there are more than one date (which, by the way there will NOT be if anyone pulls "halfsies" on me), I think that the girl should pay for her share of the dates. I am not saying that the poor guy's wallet should be like an ATM machine.
But what I am saying is this. Bottom line: Boys, listen up....on a first date.....you pay for dinner. And open my car door for good measure. Sheesh.
Am I crazy here? (This is really a rhetorical question, because I already checked with Cousin Kevin and he agrees, and the two of us are never wrong.) Thoughts on this halfsies phenomenon?
Oh, and just so you know how the story ends.....my friend paid her half. Then the doctor had a chance to redeem himself when they went for ice cream. Did he buy hers? Nope. Did she see him again? Nope. Coincidence? Nope.
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