We all have fears. And no matter how different they may be, we all have to struggle and figure out how to face them. That's hard, because it's hard for our friends to understand fears that they don't have. Don't get me wrong, they can be supportive, but they can't really understand.
For example, I have a friend who is scared of horses. As much as I want to understand and support my friend, it's really hard for me, becuase I don't understand her fear. To me, it's irrational and she needs to just hop on a horse because I know she'll be fine. But she doesn't know that, and for her, the fear is real.
I was talking about this with some friends last week. All of them assure me that some of my fears are completely irrational, probably more irrational that the fear of riding a horse. They don't understand it, but for me, it's a problem.
That's the thing about having a fear---it's not a rational thing. If it were, overcoming it would be easy. You would just calm down, think rationally, and do whatever it is you are afraid of. If only it were that easy.I think the key to overcoming a fear (as cliche as this sounds) is figuring out exactly what the fear is. Once you know what you are worried about, you can figure out how to deal with it and work through it. Then, I think you take baby steps toward the ultimate goal. Finally, at some point, you have to face the fear head on. Once you've done that, the odds are, the fear will go away and you will understand why your friends thought you were crazy.
The bottom line is this.....at some point, you just have to hop on the horse, hang on tight, and see what happens!
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