Q&A #2

“It’s never too late or too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.” ~F. Scott Fitzgerald

So today I'm answering the rest of your questions for me as a result of my Q&A blog on Monday! If you missed part one of the series, click here. You guys really outdid yourselves on these questions! Enjoy!

About what things are you most selfish?

Ha....I could write a whole blog on that. I guess it would be my time. Being single and childless sort of lets me do whatever I want with my time, and I've gotten pretty used to that. I can go on trips whenever I want and really don't have to check in with anyone. I can eat when I want and sleep when I want and watch what I want on tv. As I said yesterday, there are some benefits to being single into my late 20's and this is definately one of them.

If you could choose to know everything about one topic, what area would you choose to be an expert?
Sports. I'd totally be a college football analyst for ESPN.

Do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one that was full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?

Oh wow....y'all are serious with these questions! I would take option #1. I'd prefer the comfortable, calm relationship. I've never been much for drama and craziness, I'm much happier with comfortable. So I'd go with that. I've got some friends who are in relationships that are full of drama and bickering and fighting and I think it seems exhausting. I really want to hear other people's opinion on this though!!

What convinced you to become a lawyer?

I really wish I had a good answer to this question, but I've got nothing. I think it probably stemmed from being a pretty good test taker all my life and having no direction. Law school sort of works well for both of these things.

How long do you think the horrid OSU basketball coach will last before his contract is bought out?

Hopefully sooner rather than later. I am not a fan at all. Although I did hear that he bought like 400 tickets to the women's NIT championship game and gave them to students. So now I dislike him a little less, but just being a nice guy once doesn't make up for 3 years of being a crappy coach. Not making the tourney is not acceptable.

Do you believe in love at first sight? How long does it take to fall in love?

Nope, I don't. I just think that the good part of a relationship happens after all of the akward and confusing first sight stuff is out of the way. I think that the love comes in once everyone is over trying to be something that they are not and the awkwardness of the beginning is over and you're like sitting around in your sweats on the couch some random Tuesday night. I don't think there is a magic rule as for how long that takes, but I don't think it happens at first sight.

What is the most encouraging advice or comment anyone has given you about dating/singleness/etc?

Oh wow what a great question. I don't know that I have a great answer. Hm....one thing that I will never forget was several years back when one of my guy friends told me that whoever ended up marrying me was going to be a really lucky guy. I don't know why, but the way he said it like he really meant it was super sweet and I never forgot it.

If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?

Interesting question, one that I think could go lots of different ways. I think that I'd find a way to make a living doing something that I really, really love. It sucks that a lot of the time we have to have our jobs in order to have our hobbies and I wish that I could find a way to mesh those together. I'd also like chocolate chip cookies to have no calories.

Do you want to have a boy or girl first when you start having kids?

Boy. All the way. My dream is life is to raise college football players. No lie.

What is your most prized possession?

Hm....another tough one! I've got a plate that has an Irish blessing printed on it that used to hang in my Gran's kitchen that now hangs in mine that means a lot to me. I've got an old garden box that my dad made with his dad before he died that my dad gave to me for Christmas a couple of years ago that's pretty special. I've got a couple of notes from people who I loved that have passed away like First Valentine and Jeans and Mr. Franklin and those mean a lot to me now.

What is your favorite quote?

I can't pick one. I mean I love quotes in general. I have so many favorites! I think if I had to choose one, I'd choose "Keep praying, but be glad that God's answers are better than your prayers."

What is the coolest place you have been to & NOT Stillwater?

Oh, Pharmer Girl, you know me so well....I would have said Stillwater! Other than that....I loved Switzerland. We stayed with Cousin Swiss Mister in a tiny, quaint village in the shores of Lake Geneva with the Alps in the background. It was like heaven. The last night we were there I remember sitting outside at a little bistro in town eating Coupe Denmark while watching the sun set and thinking that I was not sure there was a more beautiful place in the world.

Why is it that you will not set foot back in Kansas?

This one came via Flintstone, who lives in Kansas. Here's the deal---I went to a year of junior college in Kansas, and honestly didn't love it. I'm glad I went because that's where I met Flintstone and Crazy Canadian and I've got no doubt that finding them was my purpose in being there. But the rest of the experience was not stellar. Nothing good happens to me in that state, particularly on the highway. I got my first speeding ticket and totalled a vehicle both in Kansas. I refuse to return.

How long do you have to date before getting engaged or married?

Hm.....I don't think there is some magical amount of time that applies. My parents only dated for like 9 months before they got married (I also think that they are crazy, but it's worked out for 30-some years....). I've had some friends who have dated for like 5 years before they get married (I also think I would have gotten pretty dang impatient!) I'm sure it depends on the people and the situations. I do think that it's important to take the time to figure out whether you are on the same page for the long term about what you want out of life and out of a marriage before putting a ring on it.

What do you do to kill time in an airport?

College Roomie is setting me up here. The answer when I am alone is that I read and people watch. It's facinating what you see in airports. The answer when I am with College Roomie is that we walk laps of the place and count how many of the guys we see that we would date. This usually ends up in a conversation that goes something like this:

Me: "Are you kidding me, he's such a dork!"

CR: "He's not a dork, he looks nice. The guy you just picked has probably been in prison."

Me: "At least we know we'll never fight over a guy huh?"

CR: "Oh wait, guy in the green shirt at 3:00."

Me: "I take it back, I'll fight you for him right now."