Unanswered Prayers

"Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding onto." ~ P.B.S. Pinchback


Garth Brooks has an old song called "Unanswered Prayers" where he tells a story of seeing his high school girlfriend years later and being thankful that God didn't give him what he thought he wanted when he was 18, because what God eventually did give him was so much better.
I certainly agree with Garth Brooks that there are times to thank God for unanswered prayers. Goodness knows if I had gotten everything that I thougnt I wanted at sometime in my life, I'd be a miserable disaster----wrong schools, wrong jobs, wrong boys, probably wrong friends----I'm glad that there are times that God says no to my prayers.

But there are sometimes where being thankful for Him not answering prayers just doesn't seem to work. When you pray and pray for a cure or a miracle, but someone you love still dies. When my friend repeatedly prays to be blessed with a child of her own, yet the pregnancy test is never positive. In instances like these, I don't think that we are expected to be grateful for our unanswered prayers.


I think that in these circumstances, faith comes into play. Even when we don't understand what God is doing, we can trust Him. Even though we are not thankful for the situation that we are in, we can believe that He is in control. Maybe in these situations, we are not expected to be thankful for the unanswered request, but we are just expected to have faith and hope and to keep on praying.

Most Eligible Bachelors

"I've seen enough to know I know what I like, it's the hard-workin', head turnin' rugged type..." ~Reba, I Want a Cowboy

Well, as I patiently wait for Mr. Right to make his appearance and sweep me off my feet, I couldn't help but notice that MSN posted a slideshow last week of the most eligible bachelors in the world. Well, I would hate to miss out on meeting Mr. Right by not reviewing this list.....so, a few thoughts for you.

First, if I had a magic wand and could make any of thse guys appear at my door, my top two choices would be......drumroll please.......

George Clooney.

Now, I realize that this does nothing to dispel my friend McCain's idea that I have a thing for older men. Which I really don't. But, let's just say if George Clooney showed up at my door, I'd let his old man self in without a second thought. I don't know what it is about him....maybe his eyes. Or maybe that he played Dr. Ross, who was just enough of a bad boy to be really interesting on ER. Whatever it is, he's on the list!

Chris Pine.

(Photo courtesy Contact Music)

Not going to lie, never heard of him prior to reading this list. And two things drew me in. First is the eyes. Is that not the prettiest color of blue you've ever seen? Second, he looks big and athletic. Which is very important for me to consider in a future husband so that I can live out my dream of being a mom to a college football player.

And I'll give first runner up to Curtis Stone.

He's cute, has an accent and can cook. I need a guy with all three of those qualities in my life.

Second, I have to admit that none of these boys get a 10 from me. (Not that they care and since I'll never meet them, that statement will never bite me in the you know what later.)

Here's my problem.....these boys probably spend more time on their hair than I do. Their hands are probably softer than mine, their skin exfoliated weekly and they no doubt spend time in a spa. This is all fine......but not up my alley.

I'm looking for a guy who likes to get his hands dirty and ride a horse and hang out at a stock show. A guy who likes cattle and sheep and wants to spend the afternoon analyzing which bull semen to order. A boy that knows how to melt my heart with an ag college-type compliment. Someone who wears boots and looks good in a hat and can talk farming and diesel engines with my Dad.

So.....if anyone comes across a list of guys like that (or even better...happens to know one in person) let's send him my way. He could be Mr. Right you know! And you might even get credit on the billboard that I've mentioned before....

November Updates

"If you cannot be a poet, be the poem." ~David Carradine

Sorry this is a little late---I've had a lot of blogs popping into my head lately! But, better late than never, right??

Notre Dame Video!
You might remember from my blog about game day at Notre Dame my telling you about hearing the trumpets playing the fight song under the Golden Dome. Well, lucky for everyone, ND Friend caught this on her trusty iPhone camera! It's worth a listen....trust me! It'll make you want to go out and hit someone on a football field!




What I'm Reading...The High Tech Version.
I have blogged once or twice before about what I am currently reading. Well, a couple weeks ago The Bride introduced me to a whole new high-tech version of this! Meet Good Reads.

Not only does this let you check out what other people think of books before you read them, it also lets you keep a list of the books that you have read. And you can see what your friends are reading! I signed up last weekend (here is a link to my list) and have been uploading books ever since! If any of you create (or already have) your own site, let me know so I can link up with you!

Adding to the Herd.
I frequently talk on here about how I hate to shop. There is an exception.....I do love buying livestock! You'll probably remember me buying my cow and heifer this past spring, and my buying 8 ewes over the summer. A couple weeks ago, I added another ewe lamb to my herd.

People at the office deemed her "cute." Not sure that's what I was going for, but I guess it's not a bad thing either!

Quote of the Month.

We all know that it came from the Blonde Oklahoma Girl. I might as well call this segment "The Blonde Oklahoma Girl Quote of the Month."
Anyway, when we were talking about me going to visit Notre Dame, BOkG said that she loved Notre Dame when she was a kid too and that she even had a Notre Dame starter jacket. I asked if it was because of the football program and Rudy. Oh no.....it was for two reasons. One because a boy she liked in elementary school liked Notre Dame, and two becasue Regis Philbin liked Notre Dame. (Opposites must attract because she's one of my best friends ever and we're clearly nothing alike!) Anyway, as I got off the plane in Chicago, BOkG texted and said that she hoped I would meet Regis at the game. I said I'd keep an eye out. Then she responded with the quote of the month.

"Now, he's very little in real life. So if you see a little person, that might be him!"

Sadly I did not see Regis (nor did I see any little people).....but I did enjoy the quote of the month!

Family Farm Friday #37: You Know How Things Work

"What flatterers say, try to make true." ~German Proverb

Last week, I got a call from someone who was seeking an attorney to help with some estate issues involving her family ranch. I explained that my firm does not do transactional work like estates, but assured her that I would help find someone who did this kind of work.
Then, the woman explained to me why she called me, instead of other attorneys who she knows.

"I thought of you, not because you're the only lawyer I know, but because I've heard your FFA speeches. You know how things work."

I have to tell you, I could not have been more flattered. Growing up in an ag community, I understand what she means, because there are a lot of people in the world who really don't know how things work as far as agriculture goes. I'm not insulting them, but I'm saying that it's a way of life that other people don't understand.

I'm proud to have grown up on a farm and ranch and to be seen as someone who knows how things work. I love the fact that I can sit in my office and talk about commercial loan agreements and million dollar class actions, and the next minute be having a conversation about breeding cows or lambing out ewes. I am different that a lot of other lawyers because of this background. But I tell you what, it was my agriculture experiences that made me the person who I am today and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
So, as far as compliments go, being told that I know how things work is one of the best I've received in a long time!

Throwback Thursday #41: 4 Simple Words

“I've yet to be on a campus where most women weren't worrying about some aspect of combining marriage, children, and a career. I've yet to find one where many men were worrying about the same thing.” ~Gloria Steinem

Today we are throwing all the way back to last week when my own actions shocked me.

Here's how it went down.

Recently, a boy (yes, I know that males my age are technically called "men" but I prefer the term "boy" so that's what we'll go with) asked me what I did for a living. Now, in case you don't know, I'm a lawyer and I have been for over a year. Here's a graduation picture to prove it.
My response to this question should have been 4 simple words. "I am a lawyer." But that's not what I said. Instead, I responded with, "I work at a law firm."

It was not something intentional or something that I thought about, but I sure as heck said it. And after I did, I was really mad at myself. I don't work at a law firm...I'm a lawyer. So why did I say that?

Do I feel like I should not really be a lawyer? Am I some closet back-woods "women should be in the kitchen" believer and I don't even know? I don't think so, but heck if I know why I did it. I think that somewhere I apparently worry that a boy will not like the fact that I'm a lawyer.

I think maybe I'm crazy. But apparently I'm not alone. I was talking to another attorney who is extremely successful, very well respected, and even has her name in her firm's title. She told me that she almost always says that she "works at a law firm" when people ask her what she does for a living. She doesn't know why she does it either.

I think this signifies some sort of problem. I don't know what the fix for it is. But what I do know is that if a boy is going to care about the fact that I'm a lawyer, I don't want to talk to him anyway. So I might as well get it out there in the open. So from now on, I'll answer the question with my 4 simple words.

Oh, and to conclude the story: The fact that I said this didn't matter. Dude busted me on the follow up question....are you a lawyer? Sneaky.

Dropping a Love Bomb

"We can do no great things, only small things with great love." ~Mother Teresa

I recently came across an amazing website called Let's Drop a Love Bomb. The whole idea is that people who follow their blog get notices of other bloggers who are having a hard time. Deaths, illnesses, lost jobs, break ups, etc. When something like this happens, everyone on Love Bomb goes to the person's blog and leaves them an encouraging comment. Last week's recipient got over 250 comments on her blog on one day from all around the world.

I think that if the world was more like this--if we looked for people who were hurting and did simple gestures to help them--it would be a better place. Just being there for someone, or saying a prayer for them when they are down, or doing something kind for no reason can make a difference. If everyone did these things every day, we could change the world.

When one of my friends passed away while he was still in high school, his mom said something that I have never forgotten. She said that she could feel the people praying for her. Ever since, I have tried my hardest to say a prayer for anyone I know or hear about going through a hard time. I hope that people can feel this, and it brings them some measure of comfort and peace.

Will a blog comment mend a broken heart? No. But will knowing that people care about you and are praying for you during a difficult situation bring some sort of peace? Hopefully. Check out the Love Bomb website. And look for the opportunity to drop one on people in your own life. Let's change the world.

The Epidemic

"I was more afraid of missing out on God's best for my life than of being alone." ~Trish Ryan, A Maze of Grace

College Roomie started it all when she got an email from one of her friends in China. College Roomie had previously written the friend a letter filling her in on what was going on with her life. Mind you, College Roomie owns a house, has a great job, just got back from Vegas and has a great best friend (aka ME!).

In reply to College Roomie's letter, the friend said, “Happy to know that everything is good to you, but what I care about more is when will you get married?”

Ugh. THAT question. It's an epidemic. And apparently, it is worldwide!

For the life of me, I don't understand it. Why is that the ONE question that it's socially acceptable to ask someone about every time you see them? It would not be okay to ask someone, "So do you have a college degree yet?" or "So did you finally get off your lazy hiney and get a job?" or "So when are you going to lose the 20 pounds you need to lose" when you were not sure of the answer. But it's totally fine to quiz away about someone's relationship status?

And, even a bigger question is why do people measure the quality of a person's life based on their marital status? Don't get me wrong here....I want to get married. Like a lot. BUT.....just because I am not married yet does not mean that my life is sad or that I am miserable. In fact, quite the opposite is true.

I'm happy and independent and free to do and go and talk to whomever I want. I can spend a whole Saturday in my pajamas watching college football or I can jump on a plane to Notre Dame or Stillwater or San Francisco without checking with anyone else, or I can eat Wheat Thins for dinner. And if for some reason I never get married, my life will still be great. (Although I will probably have to learn to cook because a girl can only live in Wheat Thins for so long).

My point is this. While I'm waiting for Mr. Right to come out of the forrest he's lost in (if you see him, please give him a map to my house), I'm still living a really great life. And it's full of a wonderful cast who loves me and supports me and makes me a better person. Am I married? No. Am I happy? You better believe it.

Oh, and when Mr. Right does arrive, you won't need to ask.....I'll probably make t-shirts for everyone and rent a billboard. Designed by this guy. He's clever.

This

"A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it." ~Jean de La Fontaine

First things first.....this month's giveaway winners are Amy E. and Oklahoma Mom! We have two because Cousin Kevin agreed to donate an extra tin! Yay, Cousin Kevin!

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Now, on to today's blog.....I love Darius Rucker. You might remember that I saw him in concert a while back. Anyway, he has a new song out called "This" and I knew the first time I heard it that I would love it. Here are just a few of the lyrics.

Every stoplight I didn’t make
Every chance I did or I didn’t take
All the nights I went too far
All the girls that broke my heart
All the doors that I had to close
All the things I knew but I didn’t know
Thank God for all I missed
Cause it led me here to this

Like the girl that I loved in high school
Who said she could do better
Or the college I wanted to go to
Till I got that letter
All the fights and the tears and the heartache
I thought I’d never get through
And the moment I almost gave up
All led me here to you
I didn’t understand it way back when
But sittin’ here right now
It all makes perfect sense

Isn't this true? I thought he was singing about me....boys that broke my heart, colleges that sent (or didn't send) the letter, moments of heartache.....I've been there. But I'm able to see how those things needed to happen in order to get me to the place where I am now--the place where God intends me to be. Sometimes when we are going through things it's impossible to look at the bigger picture and see how good might come out of difficult situations. But when we look back years later, things often start to fall into place. I, for one, am glad that I didn't get the thins I thought I wanted years ago. And I think Darius Rucker is on something here!

Check out the whole song:

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Family Farm Friday #37: Through a Child's Eyes

“There are no seven wonders of the world in the eyes of a child. There are seven million.”
~Walt Streightiff

I've always known that growing up on a farm teaches kids important lessons. Shoot, it was farm lessons that I wrote the very first Family Farm Friday about. I said later that my idea of Heaven would be a childhood memory from the farm. Clearly it's something that I am aware of, but take for granted because I was raised on a farm my whole childhood.

But over Thanksgiving, I got to take a step back and see farm lessons through the eyes of non-farm kids.

First, farming teaches kids about the circle of life. This weekend, I got to watch the birth of a baby calf through the eyes of a three year old. At three years old, he learned that the baby came out of the mommy's tummy and was all gross and yucky, and he learned that the calf would stand up pretty soon to go drink the mommy's milk.

Second, farming teaches kids to problem solve. Two of my "city kid" (if you can call Jal, New Mexico a city) cousins were cruising around on the four wheeler when my dad caputured them and gave them an important assignment. Those of you who know my dad see the humor in this...since I was a kid any time a friend came over to my house for ANY reason, they got put to work by my dad! Anyway, he told the kids to go down to the field and open the gate to let the sheep go back up the lane into the barn. My cousin, Baby Einstein told his sister, "This is going to be hard."

So off they went on the four-wheeler. First, they ended up at the wrong gate. But they figured that out and went to the next one. Which was also wrong. But they figured that out and finally ended up at the correct gate. They went to open it, but figured out that they probably needed to get the four-wheeler out of the gate first. So they did and then they opened the gate and in came the sheep. To celebrate this problem solving effort, part of the family formed a victory line as they drove back to the house.

And a total side note...Baby Einstein said the funniest thing ever when they got back. He asked if they did it right, my dad said yes, and Baby Einstein said, "I don't know about you guys, but I sure hope those sheep don't come over here and mock us." (I have no idea!)

Third, they learn to care about the animals. You put a kid on a horse and let them ride around, and there will be an instant bond. The same when you let a kid hold a puppy or let them name baby lambs. They want to help take care of these animals and they will ask about them YEARS later.

It's always nice to take a step back and look at your way of life through the fresh eyes of a child. After doing that this weekend, I sure did like what I saw!

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