Would Jesus Be?

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere." ~François de la Rochefoucauld

I listened to a great sermon online from a church back in Stillwater this weekend and it was all about being single. (Yes, I know.....I don't live in Stillwater anymore, but darn it, it's not just the happiest place on earth but it also has some of the best churches on earth too....so I'm not giving that up!)

One of the main points was that it's a total misconception that girls who are single are incomplete until they find Mr. Right. I hate this "incomplete" idea---and it's one of the reasons I never use the term "other half" when talking about two people in a relationship. I think that it's a fundamental mistake to think that any boy is going to "complete" you. I certainly think that they can support you, love you, compliment you, work well with you, etc. But I think that looking for them to complete you just leads to serious problems down the road.

Just because my Mr. Right is apparently lost somewhere in the woods doesn't mean that my life is incomplete or on hold until he gets there. (P.S. -- If you see him out there, for crying out loud give that boy a map or something!)

As I've blogged about before, I refuse to wait to do something I want to do until I'm married. Nope---my life is going on right now, thank you very much! And I must say that I'm having a pretty spectacular time living it!

Now don't get me wrong, when Mr. Right heads this direction and sweeps me off my feet, I'll make room for him in it, but in the mean time, I'm not pushing pause on things and waiting around for that day to come!

Anyway, the best part of the sermon was when the pastor told a little story about his own experiences being single in seminary. He was about to graduate and applied for several different jobs at different churches. One was as an assitant pastor at a church in Florida. The church sent him a letter back, informing him that he was not fit to be a pastor because he was not married. Apparently the church beleived that to even be an elder in the church, a man had to be married and have children.

In response, the pastor said he really wanted to write back with a simple question: "Would Jesus be qualified, then?" (He took the high road and didn't write back.....but I sure wish he would have!!) Now I've written before about good comebacks to the whole "why aren't you married question, but this pastor takes the cake!