But..... Yes, there is a "but" here.
It's hard being a single lady. Particularly when you're getting *ahem* older, and everyone else in your life has traded in their single status for shiny engagement rings and baby car seats and wedding planners. It's easy to feel like there is something wrong with you, some reason that you are not being chosen. And lots of people, as good as their intentions may be, help to make this feeling even worse with comments like, "What are you waiting on?" "Why are you being so picky?" "If you want to have kids you better get to finding you a husband." Trust me, I've heard them all.
That's why I absolutely loved this article about how society treats single women. If you ask me, it's spot on. Here's my favorite quote:
"Marital status does not reflect the loveliness of one’s personality—or God’s special favor. The world is more complicated, marriages are more diverse, and God’s ways are more mysterious than that."
Amen to that. Just because someone is married does not make her prettier or funnier or kinder or smarter or nicer or better than a single girl. And there is not something wrong with those of us who are still looking for Mr. Right. We are not less, we are not worse, we are not unchosen. We are enough: good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, just enough. We are just on a different plan and timetable.
Sometimes it's nice to just have that reminder.
14 comments:
You are more than "enough." So much more.
truthfully...i love being single. i was fortunate enough to find my boyfriend of course...but we all miss the days when we had no attachments and nothing holding us back. the more you do with that time and opportunity will show how well you fare as a single lady. and of course, love comes when you least expect it. it sure did with me. i was busy having the time of my life when love stepped in to my life LOL :)
hope your 2013 is going well and that you are planning away at that vacay ;)
You are so amazing and perfect for your future husband that God has out there for you :)
I'm so blessed to be your friend and so excited to be your bridesmaid :)
~LOKG
Singleness is looked at so negatively, and it is so refreshing to read things from someone with such a beautiful, positive outlook such as yourself. This is a great reminder, and just another example of how your faith and patience makes you much, much more than enough.
I think you are fabulous! I didn't meet my husband until I was almost 29. We were married about a month before I turned 30, Wyatt was born about 6 months before I turned 31. You have plenty of time! I got lots of comments about being an old maid, my eggs fossilizing, etc. If I had spent as much time worried about it as others were, I would have never had time to do anything else. Nevertheless you are amazing no matter your status!
Thank thank thank you, it is nice to have a reminder! One day, we are going to blog about our future husbands and it's going to be amazing!! :)
Amen. Amen and Amen.
Thanks for this friend.
Thank you once again Tiff. I think you have a much better attitude about being single than I do. I'm good most of the time, but I get down in the dumps every once in a while. Its good to know we are enough and someday someone will see it.
Good Job once again my friend! You always have such a good perspective on this situation. I completely understand where you are coming from though. In my situation it feels more like everybody else is moving on with their life and I am stuck in the same place I have been. I can get quite annoying thinking about it, but then when you step back and truly think about it. Most of those people that are getting married or having babies do not do half of the exciting things that we do. You honestly seem to have the perfect mix of work and play, family functions and friends weekends, going out and staying home in your sweats watching football. In my opinion, and keep in mind its partly partial because I don't know all your other friends but, I think your life is much more exciting than the typical married with two kids by 30 stigma. So keep up living your life and being awesome. You are setting the bar high for those of us to follow you in the future.
-Pharmer Girl
You wrote a lot of great things in this post. I was the lonely and single one for years before I met my husband. I'm glad that I never settled for anyone else or "got tired of waiting". I could have ended up in a bad situation with the wrong person.
There's probably a guy out there who is wishing for a lot of the things you are, right now...I believe it. :)
Think about how boring it would be if we were all on the same life timetable. So predictable, no variety. So easy, no excitement. God has you on the perfect schedule for YOU.
Love this blog post. At 37, I've heard it all. And the poor sympathetic looks I get at showers and weddings... ugh. I, too, believe I'm on God's timetable. So instead of making a mistake, I'll just have faith.
It's always great to see someone else supporting this! :)
It's funny you put that quote up there, cause I just heard that last night!
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you! NEVER forget that. When it does happen, it will be SO worth the wait :)
I've been feeling the single girl blues a bunch lately, and it was nice to see an article like this and read a blog post I'm able to relate to. Thank you for sharing this. <3
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