Tiffany Says: "It will happen when you realize that it might not and are okay with that possibility."
I swear to you, if one more freaking person had told me, "It will happen when you aren't looking!" I would have punched them in the face. No, seriously, I would get violently angry upon hearing that. How, exactly, should I not look? Lock myself in my house, never see people of the opposite sex, and trust that God will drop someone in my lap? That advice is stupid.
I think that every single girl questions whether she will get married, whether there is someone out there for her, or if she will be the one spending every holiday alone and always sitting at the kids table at weddings.
People try to help by saying things like, "There's someone for everyone." I never found that helpful. Mostly because I know great people who never got married, never found love. Oh, and the Bible actually says that some people are called to be single, so there's some pretty good authority against this theory. Clearly, then, there is not someone for everyone. Ergo, that advice is stupid too.
What I can tell you, at least for me, is that it happened once I had come to the realization that it might not. And, I came to the conclusion that I was okay with the fact I might not get married. I realized that even if I was not someone called to marry, my life would be okay. Not only okay, my life would be great. I would be the super fun aunt who would flitter in and out with fun gifts and way too much sugar. I would travel the world. I might buy myself those Jimmy Choo's instead of starting up a college fund for future children. I distinctly remember the day that I understood whatever God's calling was for me, I would accept it, embrace it, and enjoy it.
And low and behold, a couple months later, The Boy from Texas asked me on our first date. And then in June, well, you know the story.
Blonde Oklahoma Girl Says: "It will happen when you least expect it."
I know, I know, I know. What single girl wants to hear those words? “Oh,
honey…don’t worry, it will happen when you least expect it!” Yes, I heard that
a many times and each time I heard that I wanted to straight punch the person
in the face.
However….it really does happen when you least expect it. I know, I
know…you now want to punch me in the face? I get it. I really do.
When you are
single, and looking by the way…because let’s face it…when are you really
not looking….it’s hard to hear that. So…here’s the thing. When you are happy
and focused on you, and are making you a better person…then you have room in
your life and you ready to meet someone, because now you are ready to share
your life with someone….and that usually happens when you least expect it. Why?
Because you are busy being you…and the best you for that matter.
So, when you
are in a new town and it’s Thanksgiving weekend and you have nothing to do, you
go to a calf-roping. Why a calf-roping? Who knows…probably because there isn’t
anything else to do in your new town. You then run into a friend you knew from
college and it’s totally random because you haven’t seen her since college
graduation, like six years ago. You go have dinner, you meet the next night.
Except this time, a boy shows up. You talk to that boy, tell him you should be
friends…because you know no one in this new town. Boy calls you that night, boy
calls you the next morning…asks you on a date. You go on said date…and every
day since then you have been with that boy. Boy asks you to marry him in a
horse drawn carriage, the “Will you Marry Me, Lyndse T” is in Christmas lights.
You say I do on August 30, 2014. And live Happily Ever After.
Moral of the story…go to a Calf-Roping. :) Just kidding…but it could happen
at Wal-Mart. Or on a random football weekend, where you meet a guy and then a
few months later go on a date with a guy and then plan on getting married
October 25, 2014!
2 comments:
I agree more with Tiff on this one than I do with Lyndse.(Sorry Lyndse!) I don't think that there is a specific time when you meet Mr Right BUT I do think it's important to become OK with the possibility of not meeting him. ASK YOURSELF What would life look like if I never got married? Then decide on the best life possible -- dont imagine a lonely cat lady, imagine someone who travels and is involved in ministry and plans dinner parties, etc. I became more okay with forever singleness when I imagined it in the best case scenerio.
As far as when you will meet mr right?? Marrieds would say this all the time - "when you aren't looking" or "when you least expect it" or "when you are ready" I absolutely hated the last one because it implied that they had found someone because they were mature and ready so they met someone-- and gosh darn, if you just grew up a little or were more spiritually mature, then you would to.
I think it happens when God plans and thats all I am comfortable saying. I think you should always look on some level -- IE, always be welcoming, friendly, give guys a chance. If you realize you only hang out with married people or girls, extend your circles. Try new things. Become involved -- for lots of good reasons, but one reason being meeting a new guy.
But, don't make "the search" the only thing you do. I met my husband when I was looking. It wasn't during a time I was looking the most, but I was looking, because I rarely ever quit looking and hoping.
And honestly, those who meet mr right in college and get engaged young were looking too-- because we are all looking 80-90 percent of the time (when single)
Ok, SORRY FOR MY BLOG POST, HA!! But this is a passionate subject for me :) I love this series!
I can see some truth in both of these theories. But I'm probably closer to Tiffany's finish. I've recently started accepting that maybe I never will get married and have kids. And I'm OK with that. My life will still be great, and I will have lots of other adventures to fulfill me.
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